Unsolicited advice is everywhere. It can be that post about finding a mate that your friend tags you on Facebook in. It can be that great aunt who keeps asking you why you don’t have a boyfriend and asks if it’s because you are “like that“. It can even be the direct gems of wisdom from a male family member telling you you’ll never find a man until you lose weight. True story. There are so many ridiculous and quite frankly infuriating things I heard when I was single, and all of it was from people who “had my best interests at heart”. Bull. Shit. Either way, people feel they have the right to talk. I want to share with you 3 dating and relationship comments people should keep to themselves. Like really, please do.
3 DATING AND RELATIONSHIP COMMENTS PEOPLE SHOULD KEEP TO THEMSELVES
Commenting about a woman’s weight is a no-no. Unless you are with your friends and you are all whingeing about this, that, or the other body part that you aren’t particularly loving today. As I mentioned earlier a family member (a close one at that) once said to me that I needed to lose weight because I would never find a man until I did. Just thinking about it makes my jaw drop! How can people have the nerve?! The nerve! He proceeded to add that men just don’t like women who aren’t slim, and that I would remain forever alone (ok, he said single, but that’s what my poor little mind heard) until I fixed the problem. The problem namely being ME! What a crock of shit, innit? I am baffled that men can go around thinking it’s acceptable to say those things to women.
That also reminds me of a former co-worker who blatantly blurted out that only, and I quote, “Truck drivers (lorry drivers) and black men like big girls”. Another idiot with a lot of nerve! Let’s just say that no one really worked after that comment and the guy got a lot of flack for it. Well deserved for being such an idiot.
So, When’s the Wedding?
Dating can be tough work. The awkward first dates, the regretful hookups, the heartbreaking splits, among many other things. It’s not a walk in the park, so when you find someone who you click with and then end up getting in a very nice and comfortable place with you just want that time to last. In comes the big mouthed so and so blathering about wedding bells, and commitment, and tradition, and whatever else they feel like verbally barraging you with. No matter what your reaction may be they are in no way satisfied and always keep pushing.
If you’re one of those, please, just stop. If you’ve encountered them, I feel your pain. Whilst people ordinarily mean well, acting like overexcited Chihuahua’s doesn’t do anything for their case. Before my Jamie and I even moved in together an uncle of mine kept asking me when I was going to get married. Casually mentioning that, you know, I may prefer to get married before we move in together. Not only did he insist on having that conversation with me, but he did it to my other half as well the first time they met. My uncle has passed away since, and now we can just look back in disbelief and laugh about it, but despite him being dead now, those actions in life were really not cool.
Are you ever Going to Have Children?
Here’s the kicker, and the one that can ruin more familial relationships than any other comments combined. When are you having children. I don’t even know where to begin with this one, but I will publicly ask you lot – why do people think they have the right to ask such a question?! I have been with the other half for going on 7 years and there are a plethora of reasons why we don’t have children yet. Must I discuss them with anyone? Absolutely not.
I had a great uncle ask me once about the subject of having kids. When I said I didn’t have any plans at the moment he asked me “what the point of getting married was” if one wasn’t going to have kids? I’ll just let that one sink in for a minute.
A great aunt also asked me on more than one occasion the question about children – “Why don’t you have children? You’re quite old now (I was about 27 then) so you should hurry up if you ever want to have any”. Her granddaughter had a son after 10 years of marriage and the consensus amongst the family was “phew, about time”.
What are the most ridiculous dating and relationship comments you have ever heard? As you can see the most memorable ones tend to be from family members, so keep that in mind the next time you want to ask your cousin when she is finally going to get pregnant.
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